MEDICINE,MYSTRY,ART AND PHOTOGRAPHY: 2009

Sunday, December 6, 2009

THE 12th DECEMBER 2008

This is one important day in my life. After my Samdhiji Sri Saxena lost both his wife & grown up only son [Both in accident, within a span of two months apart of each other] in 2006-07. As he is comparatively young and has not even retired I advised him to who remarry and he followed my advice.
The reason of my advise were many one most important one was that I wanted to punish my daughter in law was responsible for killing my mother in law by depriving her of giving love to her only great grandson, for behaving badly with My wife & me and once I heard her tell her father soon after the death of her mother to write the duplex apartment in Bhopal in her name in his life time.
I will not let her get away with this. Besides this I found Mr. Saxena. in a broken down state, both his old parents are living and I wanted to uplift his sprits, he has a long span of life before him, and after the death of his old parents such is his daughter who is demanding his flat in his life time, how much care she will do I very well understand.
But retrospectively I think what I would have done in similar circumstances I would have never married again why?
Not due to immense love with my wife I do love her much but I love other things as well like good food, fine perfume, nice flowers, my close friends, fast cars and other worldly and abstract articles. To my mind marriage is an institution of compromise and very when one is born alone and one dies alone why should one marry and increase the burden of life. I feel may be for safe sexual satisfaction. Sex may be important but not necessarily it may be satisfying.
Marriage then compromise with wife as two different persons from two different backgrounds, values come together, with two opposite natures have to adjust and balance life, either quarrel or compromise. This compromise become greater once children [fruits of love are born]. Many times you have to sacrifice your wish form the sack of your children. One may go hungry but one has to feed the children, put them to best Schools & Colleges, where even you have not attended is the cost which the parents have to bear. Compromise, compromise for the wishes of wife & Children and then one day die. If that is Life, I do not want it. There should be enough breathing time in between couples ONCE LONELY SOLITUDE. T INCREASE LOVE ONE MUST GET SEPERATED FROM EACH OTHER FOR SOME TIME.
Marriage does not mean total dependence on each other. IT SHOULD BE FLAXABLE some times together, some times alone. As I have lived alone for about 10 years [major part] I have become more confident, independent and can solve all my problems all alone, I can cook what ever I want to eat. And most unfortunately if I am placed in place of Mr. Saxena’s circumstances
WHY MARRY AGAIN?
And loss independence, lonely solitude where you are
YOURSELF, NOT HUSBAND, FATHER OR SON of some one.

So I would have not followed my own advice. It is good for him not for me a
FREE BIRD, AWARA BADAL, KULI HAWAHA AND
NOT A NICE MAN TO KNOW.

Lastly I am reminded on a record which my dear wife presented me after our marriage

‘HAPPY IS HE WHO IS A BACHLOR BOY UNTIL HIS DIEING DAY’